3 Steps to Getting What You Want

confidence happiness Jul 08, 2020

Being, Doing, & Having What You Want

You have a million things you want. Maybe a good job, a family, friends, to be fit, to stop smoking, to be rich- the possibilities are endless, and your list is pretty long. There’s nothing wrong with admitting what you want. I’ll be honest- I want to help people, but I also want to be able to live in a nicer house and send my daughters to a good school.

Ariana Grande says, "I see it/I like it/I want it/I got it.” Now, Ariana may have wayyyy more money than you, but she’s definitely on to something. The steps to getting exactly what you want have a simple basic structure that make it completely possible to achieve your goals.

What You Want

Be: What You Want

Being, when you think about it, is actually pretty simple. And yet, we are constantly being what we don’t want to be. We’re being a cashier when we want to be an artist. Smoking when we want to be healthy. Being alone when we want to have...

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7 Signs You're in Alignment with Your Desires

alignment change work Jun 30, 2020

How to know when you're in alignment

Most of us are looking to live a life in alignment. Some of us just go to the chiropractor, but I digress. I define alignment as 'living in sync with who we are internally' and it's a value I use in my personal life as well as my business. I used to be so out of sync with who I was internally, that I had to create a secret Instagram space just to express who I was inside. It was terrible. But as I get more in alignment, I see some huge shifts. And as you go on your personal development journey- I think you'll see them too. 

1. You genuinely smile more

I really don't like when creepy old men tell me to smile, or when people declare I have RBF. But I spent such a long time in customer service that on my last day, I blasted Ariana Grande's "Fake Smile" because I was never ever ever going to smile if I didn't genuinely feel like it again. (The line for any non-grande fans out there is "Fuck a fake smile... I can't fake another smile/I can't...

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7 Mantras I Use to CRUSH My Goals

The Perfect Affirmations for Goal Setting

I used to be pretty directionless. If you've been following me for a while, you've probably heard my classic story about my boss's boss asking me about my 5 year plan and me feeling like I was going to vomit all over the table. I literally had NO answer. For a long time, my goals were set by other people for me. And it wasn't until I branched out to setting my own goals just for me that I had to really learn about how to actually set them... because I actually cared if I met them or not!

While there are a lot of components that make up goal setting, keeping focused and motivated is one of the hardest things for so many people. That's why I'm sharing my top 7 mantras that I use to keep me on track to crush my goals. 

1. I am capable.

Keep things simple by reminding yourself that you can do this! No matter what your goals are, this mantra will give you a confidence boost you need to follow through. Say it daily or keep it in your back...

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Ditch the Perfectionist Headache

How to Stop Stressing About Being Perfect

Hey! Recovering perfectionist here! There’s a lot of internal fears that surround that perfectionism- fear of failure, fear of rejection, fear of disappointing others, fear of abandonment… and while your perfectionistic tendencies have probably given you a good amount of success, they are more than likely also driving you crazy.

They’re the reason you’re up way too late obsessing about your to-do list. They get you way too worked up when someone doesn’t do things the “right way” (AKA your way). They side track you from what’s important and keep you beating yourself up over minor things that won’t matter in the grand scheme of things. Your perfectionism isn’t making you successful- if anything, it’s holding you back from maximizing your success.

Ditch the perfectionist headache How to stop stressing about being perfect

Perfect Self Sabotage

Here’s something super cool that humans like to do. They see an opportunity for them to actually have...

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Allowing Intuition to Guide You

How to Listen to That Little Voice Inside

We all have intuition. It sits inside us whispering, and if you’re anything like me- you’ve probably spent a good chunk of your life pushing it down. I know I have lived portions of my life desperately trying to deny what it was going on inside, trying to listen to what the “logical” thing was. My intuition just kept getting louder and louder and louder, while my heart got sadder and sadder and sadder. Eventually, I had to listen. And then I felt a whole lot better.

Has this ever happened to you? Maybe you’re going through it right now. Maybe you’re sitting there with a sick feeling in the pit of your stomach, and the anxiety rising, but just unable to be truthful with yourself. Your intuition is trying to tell you something, but you either don’t know, or are unwilling to admit, what it is. Here are 3 tips to help you get in touch with your intuition and let it guide you.

Allow your intuition to guide you

1. For the love of your...

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How to Clear Limiting Beliefs so You Can Crush Your Goals 💪

5 Keys to Letting Go of Limiting Beliefs

It can be a lot easier to blame an outside force rather than take responsibility for not meeting your goals. Blaming the economy, your partner, or even cultural expectations as a whole takes some of the pressure off. But in reality, many of us are held back by our own limiting beliefs.

So how do we shift what’s happening to us? How do we actually achieve what we want if there’s all this “gunk” going on underneath that we can’t even see? Here’s 5 steps to clear out those limiting beliefs so you can crush any goals you set for yourself.

Be the CEO of Your Own Life

1. Be Aware of What Your Limiting Beliefs Are

You can’t fix what you don’t know about right? Our limiting beliefs live in our subconscious which means they’ve become a part of our autopilot system. We’re just living our lives this way- often not even realizing what’s going on.

I know for a long time, I used to have an issue with a certain...

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People Pleasers Don't Get Promoted

Your Fear of Rejection Will Lead to Burnout

You may not consider yourself a people pleaser. You might be looking at all the good traits you have, and you have every right to be proud of what you’ve achieved. You’re a hard worker- maybe even a little bit of a perfectionist. You’re good at caring for others, sometimes even being able to anticipate what they need. But the rest of the stuff lurking underneath is going to keep you from continuing to progress.

When you scratch the surface, you’ll find that people pleasing is actually coupled with a low self-worth. People pleasers are often afraid of being rejected or abandoned, and while this may push them to have some success, eventually- it’s going to lead them to burnout.

Exhausted, Overworked, & Overbooked

Isn’t working hard a good thing? In our crazy culture, the person working the hardest should get the promotion. That’s just how it works! That might happen for you. As a...

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SMART Goals: Elevated Success

goals success Apr 23, 2020

Goal Setting on A Totally Different Level

The SMART acronym has been around for a while. If you’ve been in the business world for a while, you’ve probably been exposed to it- at least haphazardly. But I want to introduce you to a different version, a better version. One that will take your goals and elevate them to a higher level. That version is based around the foundations of Neuro-linguistic Programming (NLP), and by using this model, you’ll be sure to achieve success.

SMART goals goal setting

S: Specific, Simple, See Yourself

When using NLP techniques to set your goals, start with the three S’s: specific, simple, and see yourself. Our subconscious will always take the path of least resistance. So, we have to be incredibly specific when we start creating our goals. If we vaguely state, “I want to have more money.” our subconscious may see us pick a penny up off the ground and consider goal achieved. By being specific (“I want to make $60,000 per...

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Be the CEO of Your Life

How CEO’s Live in the Cause; Not the Effect

How many times have you heard someone say, “I can’t.”? How many times have you said it yourself? Sometimes “can’t” is useful- when you’re setting boundaries or maintaining your values (I mean… if someone asked you to murder someone, it’d probably be a good idea to say, “I can’t.”) But what happens when you use “I can’t” to describe things you really wish you could do. Often times you use “I can’t” and give plenty of “reasonable” excuses. But in the end, they’re just that… excuses.

“I can’t [thing you want] because [excuse]”

“I can’t start a business because my parents never ran a business.” “I can’t get my job because I don’t have a degree.” “I can’t find a relationship because too many have turned sour.”

Or even worse- when...

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FYI: You Matter

mindset Apr 02, 2020

How Losing My Friend Made Me Realize How Important Everyone Is

We’ve all had that passing thought, “Would anyone miss me if I was gone?” But the reality is you are so much more important than you even know. Shortly after high school, one of my peers committed suicide- and changed my perception on how much we matter forever.

It took extra care and time for me to write this. It sat in my drafts- incomplete and wondering if it even belonged in this stratosphere that I’m trying to create for you. And even though I can’t sum this up in a tidy package like 9 Simple Ways to Believe In Yourself, I want to share this piece of my life with you.

FYI: You matter more than you think

The Sunday before Easter…

I sat in church as the Bishop talked about experiencing someone’s suicide at the age of seventeen. There was a larger meaning to the story about crosses and being close to God, but I was just stuck in this moment with him- hurled into my own memories. I don’t know how old this...

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